Kimpoi

Sa wakas! Early nahurot ang foods so I decided to walk and go to bookstore to buy something to read. Something knowledgeable. As i was looking to lots of books something caught my eye. A very good book pero very expensive and kulang ko sa budget. (how sad) so i decided to read na lang the summary of it.

Title: Working for Values will Make You Happy

Ang ingon sa book, If you want to be happy, its very simple. Maximize pleasure and minimize pain. This advice is as good as this one. Do you want to be rich? Simple! Buy low and sell high.

The fact is that people can be happy while in pain and unhappy while experiencing pleasure.

So, the author has given something like “Inventory of Happiness” composed of the 6 basic desires with good description so that you can compare and identify which ones do you desire strongly. These basic desires hold a key to ones happiness. The ones that you strongly desire are the keys to your happiness. Try to satisfy those, provided they match the values you uphold in life. If you dont agree with your true values , satisfying them will not make you happier.

The 16 Basic desires are listed below. I have taken some liberty in changing them from the format and text in which they were presented by the author. Each one is provided with a leading question to help you determine if you desire it “strongly” or not.

1. Curiosity. Do you have a thisrt for knowledge?

2. Acceptance. Do you have a hard time coping with criticism?

3. Order. Does it upset you when things are out of place?

4. Physical Activity. Is physical fitness very important to you?

5. Honor. Are principles and loyalty important to you?

6. Power. Do you often seek leadership roles?

7. Independece. Do you think you wont be happy if youre not independent and self-reliant?

8. Social Contact. Do other people know you as fun-loving person?

9. Family. Does family comes first for you?

10. Status. Are you impressed with people who own expensive things?

11. Idealism. Compared with most people. are you more concerned with social causes?

12. Vengeance. Is it very important for you to get even with those who insault and offended you?

13. Romance. Is seeking/receiving love very important in your life?  Here is an alternate question for people who are more inclined towards sex. Compared to your peers, do you spend much more time pursuing or having sex?

14. Eating. Do you love to eat and often fantasize with food?

15. Saving. Do you love to save for the future or hate to throw things away.

16. Tranquility. Instead of noise and excitement, do you seek calm and tranquility?

Be factual and objective in your evaluation. Sometimes, we think that a particular quality or value is important to us, but our actions indicate otherwise. HAving identified your strong desires, prioritize them.

Pursuit of right values brings happiness. Pleasure and happiness are often opposite. Hence, pursue of pleasure for sake of pleasure is bound to create unhappiness in time. Strive for value-bases happiness.

People who should be called “successful” are those who constantly turn to family, faith careers and clean fun and leisure to satisfy their most important desires. When we feel our lives have meaning, which is to fulfill a deeper and larger purpose in the universe, we experience a spiritual satisfaction. Without spiritual satisfaction, a life is not truly lived.